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Eating Concerns

How To Help a Friend Who May Have an Eating Disorder

Things to Consider...

  • Avoiding or ignoring your friends problem will not help!! Your friends health and even life may be in danger.
  • Seek professional help, so you do not feel alone and have someone to turn to for guidance. Do not keep your friends problem a secret for fear of making her/him angry or getting her/him in trouble.
  • Your are doing a wonderful thing by learning more about eating disorders and wanting to help your friend. Someday, she/he will thank you.

Guidelines For Communication>

  • If a number of people are actively concerned, consider who might be most effective in speaking to your friend.
  • Try to confront your friend at a time when you are feeling calm and a place where you feel comfortable - one where there will be no interruptions.
  • Express your concerns in a caring, non-judgmental way by using "I" statements. For example, "I am concerned about you, or "I think you may have a problem."
  • Avoid using "You" statements. For example, "You are out of control," or "You have to eat something!"
  • Do not label or diagnose. For instance, avoid saying, "You have an eating disorder."
  • Be specific about behaviors that concern you. Share your memories of times or instances you felt worried about your friend. Discuss the emotions you experienced as a result of these events.
  • Ask the person to share his/her feelings with you. Let your friend know you are there to be supportive and listen. Make sure she/he understands that you will not expose the situation to other friends, the dorm, etc.
  • If your friend does not want to talk, do not give up. Perhaps try an alternative approach, such as writing him/he a letter. If you are still not getting through to your friend, seek help from a professional on what to do next.

Source: Material reproduced from, "How to help someone who may have an eating disorder." - Cornell University Health Services, 9/97

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